Keep it 8 more than 92 with me
“The truth is rarely pure, and never simple.” - Oscar Wilde
They say the truth can set you free. It feels so liberal to speak your mind all the time, and know that everything your're saying comes from a place of unforgivable honesty. One thing I learned about the truth is it has no boundaries. Because it lives with no limitations, the effects it may have on someone may be more damaging then we expect. Of course being honest or " keeping it real" is the most highly respected lifestyle anyone can embody. I know I always felt betrayed when I found out I was lied too, even if it was a little white lie! But is lying really a crime? Well, Just to play devils advocate many might feel like lying protects someone mentally, and emotionally. Sometimes hearing one "keep it so real" can be more damaging to us then we expect. so is it always a great idea to keep it real?
I always said all I ever wanted in my relationships was honesty. "Be real with me." "Tell me the truth, even if its going to hurt me". It is usually when we have to hear a truth that isn't comforting, and it does not work in our favor, that we let our insecurities run wild. It wasn't until I got wrapped up in a very unhealthy relationship, that I realized how much effect the truth had damaged me internally. Not because that person was honest with me, ( he probably lied to me with every breath he took) it was because I went searching for it, and found the very answer I wasn't ready for. Once I found out he was in a relationship with another woman, at the same time as he was in a relationship with me; He had no choice, but to be honest once the truth was already revealed. His apologies were endless of course, but he said the most unauthentic quote I'll never forget. "I lied, because I didn't want to hurt you." If it's one thing I can agree on is the truth had damaged me beyond my capabilities of knowing how to be strong. It was the very thing that dug deep down inside me, and opened a sealed box of insecurities that I never wanted to have. His Truth may have been able to set him free, but in return the truth did nothing, but cage me into a dark place of confusion, and a disagreeable taste in my mouth. I walked away from that relationship worse then when I was being comforted, by the sweet lies that I knew deep down didn't feel real enough. "The truth is rarely pure, and never simple." - Oscar Wilde. So should we always keep it real, even if it means damaging or hurting someone else?
Well here is what I think. Living a lie can be comforting, and protecting but at some point its never enough. The truth will always manifest its way to the surface, whether we want it or not. As much as the truth may hurt. we need to have it in order to determine our worth, and develop into who we are. what we think is too damaging to bare, can actually mold or prepare you for something harder in the future. It is the very essence that helps us grow, and mature into better beings. I may have been damaged in a way I couldn't believe, but I don't regret the limitless fortune the truth has allowed me to see. It forced me into a stage of soul searching to understand myself, and consciously heal into a better me. Without the hurtful truth, I would not be the person I am evolving into now. What we think we cant bare we can actually exceed. So should we always live a lifestyle of truth?
Keep it 8 more than 92 with me, for as long as I have opportunity to learn, grow and prosper!
Stay liberated, and stay free.
They say the truth can set you free. It feels so liberal to speak your mind all the time, and know that everything your're saying comes from a place of unforgivable honesty. One thing I learned about the truth is it has no boundaries. Because it lives with no limitations, the effects it may have on someone may be more damaging then we expect. Of course being honest or " keeping it real" is the most highly respected lifestyle anyone can embody. I know I always felt betrayed when I found out I was lied too, even if it was a little white lie! But is lying really a crime? Well, Just to play devils advocate many might feel like lying protects someone mentally, and emotionally. Sometimes hearing one "keep it so real" can be more damaging to us then we expect. so is it always a great idea to keep it real?
I always said all I ever wanted in my relationships was honesty. "Be real with me." "Tell me the truth, even if its going to hurt me". It is usually when we have to hear a truth that isn't comforting, and it does not work in our favor, that we let our insecurities run wild. It wasn't until I got wrapped up in a very unhealthy relationship, that I realized how much effect the truth had damaged me internally. Not because that person was honest with me, ( he probably lied to me with every breath he took) it was because I went searching for it, and found the very answer I wasn't ready for. Once I found out he was in a relationship with another woman, at the same time as he was in a relationship with me; He had no choice, but to be honest once the truth was already revealed. His apologies were endless of course, but he said the most unauthentic quote I'll never forget. "I lied, because I didn't want to hurt you." If it's one thing I can agree on is the truth had damaged me beyond my capabilities of knowing how to be strong. It was the very thing that dug deep down inside me, and opened a sealed box of insecurities that I never wanted to have. His Truth may have been able to set him free, but in return the truth did nothing, but cage me into a dark place of confusion, and a disagreeable taste in my mouth. I walked away from that relationship worse then when I was being comforted, by the sweet lies that I knew deep down didn't feel real enough. "The truth is rarely pure, and never simple." - Oscar Wilde. So should we always keep it real, even if it means damaging or hurting someone else?
Well here is what I think. Living a lie can be comforting, and protecting but at some point its never enough. The truth will always manifest its way to the surface, whether we want it or not. As much as the truth may hurt. we need to have it in order to determine our worth, and develop into who we are. what we think is too damaging to bare, can actually mold or prepare you for something harder in the future. It is the very essence that helps us grow, and mature into better beings. I may have been damaged in a way I couldn't believe, but I don't regret the limitless fortune the truth has allowed me to see. It forced me into a stage of soul searching to understand myself, and consciously heal into a better me. Without the hurtful truth, I would not be the person I am evolving into now. What we think we cant bare we can actually exceed. So should we always live a lifestyle of truth?
Keep it 8 more than 92 with me, for as long as I have opportunity to learn, grow and prosper!
Stay liberated, and stay free.
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